Why do people do that????

OK, I went to work yesterday and there was a note to call another coworker. One I don't see very often and don't even particularly care for. I decided I would call her right before her shift was over but instead she called me. When I answered the phone the first thing she said was, "I saw your ex the other day!" I said, " I don't want to hear about it. I don't care." She said, "No, just listen, I've been wanting to tell you this since last week. He was standing in [his place of employment] talking to a chick and..." I said again, "I don't want to hear it. I'm over him, I don't want to know what he is doing." She said, "No wait, listen. He looked over at me and said, 'I'm not as bad a person as SHE makes me out to be.' and I said, 'who?' and he said, 'you know who' and I said, ' I haven't even heard her mention your name.' and then I walked off." Again, I said, "I don't want to hear about him. I don't care if you see him, or what you say to him." The thing is is that I don't really bad mouth him at all. All I have to say is he cheated on me and people make their own opinions. Like most of the people I associate myself with, they lose respect for someone who has cheated. It is just morally wrong and the people I'm around don't want to be around people like. You know what, he treated me great then he cheated on me. Now, if he thinks he's a good person for that just because he treated me great most of the time, then so be it.

Now, the thing that irritates me is that he doesn't even know her. He just knows I work with her. That's it. Why doesn't he just let it go. What makes the difference what my opinion is of him? We are not friends. We do not associate with eachother. I don't expect people, including my friends, to not speak to him, although I prefer they didn't. I don't ask them if they do, I don't ask them if they have seen him and they surely don't tell me. I live my life like he doesn't exist. I am scared to pass him on the road but 99% of the time, that doesn't happen. Although I still think of him on occasion, it's not like I want him back. I reminice now, of the good times. The bad is still fresh in my mind, but the good times are slowly coming back. I am not grateful for the good times because of the bad, but at least I can smile about them. I have new interests, new friends along with my loyal old friends, I've moved on. More and more people are becoming my friends. Eventually, I tell them who I dated and why we broke up. If they know him, they think less of him. I don't know if it's because of the moral issue or that they think I'm a good person, whichever it is, it's not because I said he was a bad person. Hummm.... I wander what he says about me? I really don't care because none of the people he's assoicated with can hold a candle to my friends. They can think I'm the worst bitch on the planet, I don't care. Those who know me, well, they think pretty highly of me and they are much more respectable than his people.

Well, now that I'm ranted and raved... again, I just wish everyone would not tell me about what he does, I don't really care... but there are always those simple few. I guess I just need to deal with that. It didn't dampen my day or spirits so I guess it's all good. Well, I have a horrible cold and I've been in bed most of the day so I think I'll head back there now. It's kickin' my ass.....